1) Start by greeting the person friendly.
E.g. "Hello"
Sometimes "Hello" followed up with a nice adjective/positively charged word is also appreciated.
E.g. "Hello wonderful person"
It is NOT recommended, however, to say anything negatively charged, unless you'd like to insult them.
E.g. "Hello you whiny bat, that has a compulsive need for closeness, and care about nothing except for yourself."
2) Ask "How are you?".
This is crucial to the conversation, and can also be the conversation starter. If so, and you're the one talking about how you are, be sure to ask the other person too, regardless of how little you really care.
E.g. "-How are you? -Lost my job.... How are you? -Fine thanks... And you did what?"
It is NOT recommended to ramble on with how you felt when the boss canned you, and how you were humiliated in front of everyone. There is always time for that later.
3) Be polite.
Politeness is always nice.
Say "thank you" and "please". Everyone appreciates this.
Details about your night with the steaming hot waiter/waitress is not always suitable. Of course if you're speaking to a close friend, it can be acceptable. But if this is to a friend you don't really share that much with, this can be seen as rude, and is also called "Lack of filter".
4) Say goodbye.
This is sometimes underestimated but it's very important.
If you're in the middle of a conversation, and a person suddenly never responds, you have been the victim of a "rushed exit". (The Slow and Painful one, is when the conversation stops up all together and you both log off to be polite) If you are about to make a "Rushed exit", do your conversation partner a favour, and say "Gotta go, bye" so that he or she doesn't have to sit and wait for an answer.
Be polite.
Thanks. *Bows to the applause*
E.g. "Hello"
Sometimes "Hello" followed up with a nice adjective/positively charged word is also appreciated.
E.g. "Hello wonderful person"
It is NOT recommended, however, to say anything negatively charged, unless you'd like to insult them.
E.g. "Hello you whiny bat, that has a compulsive need for closeness, and care about nothing except for yourself."
2) Ask "How are you?".
This is crucial to the conversation, and can also be the conversation starter. If so, and you're the one talking about how you are, be sure to ask the other person too, regardless of how little you really care.
E.g. "-How are you? -Lost my job.... How are you? -Fine thanks... And you did what?"
It is NOT recommended to ramble on with how you felt when the boss canned you, and how you were humiliated in front of everyone. There is always time for that later.
3) Be polite.
Politeness is always nice.
Say "thank you" and "please". Everyone appreciates this.
Details about your night with the steaming hot waiter/waitress is not always suitable. Of course if you're speaking to a close friend, it can be acceptable. But if this is to a friend you don't really share that much with, this can be seen as rude, and is also called "Lack of filter".
4) Say goodbye.
This is sometimes underestimated but it's very important.
If you're in the middle of a conversation, and a person suddenly never responds, you have been the victim of a "rushed exit". (The Slow and Painful one, is when the conversation stops up all together and you both log off to be polite) If you are about to make a "Rushed exit", do your conversation partner a favour, and say "Gotta go, bye" so that he or she doesn't have to sit and wait for an answer.
Be polite.
Thanks. *Bows to the applause*
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